I was compelled to think this as one of my friend made a statement while we were chatting that a guy and a girl can never be friends, there are always some feelings involved. The sole reason for this debate can be the Bollywood movies (mainly love stories ) which we have been bearing since our childhood, involving a guy and a girl having friendship in the beginning which ultimately prospers into love.
Late “Mr. Yash chopra” tried to prove this with his movies again 90% of which were love stories , be it ‘Dil toh pagal hai’, ‘mere yaar ki shaadi hai’, ‘mujhse dosti karoge’,’hum tum’, ‘salaam namaste’, ‘new york’ etc etc (i have a long list of those) all teach only one lesson at the end and that is “ek ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte”.
The other person who can be convicted of being accomplice to him is the king of bollywood “Mr. Shahrukh Khan” for his love story movies which left us with this debatable question for lifetime. But 1 place where i find him not being guilty for this is his great dialogue (of which i’m still a fan) from the movie Kuch kuch hota hai
“Pyar dosti hai , agar woh meri sab se achchi dost nahin ban sakti to main us se pyaar kar hi nahi sakta. (Love is friendship, if she can’t be my good friend then I cannot fall in love with her)”
which makes this question a easy one to be answered, that for a guy and a girl to be in a relationship they need to have a strong friendship between them.
I often see people jumping to romantic conclusions on seeing a opposite-sex friendship, why is it so? It is all because we are all used to see girl- guy pairs as romantic be it the ending of movies, stories shown by media these days etc. According to media no actor & actress who work together in a movie can be friends, they have to be in a relationship to work together. What rubbish!!!!
While i’m not too close to any of my girl friends( not girlfriends :p) i’m fortunate to have some of them only as friends. We talk nonsense, laugh together, enjoy a lot and do all crazy stuff. Neither I’ve any feelings for them nor i intend to have any in the near future. Hence i disagree that a guy and girl can’t be friends but i do agree that at some point a “what if” usually crosses both minds about dating and there comes a time when either of them or both develop feelings for each other, but i don’t see those feelings are going to ruin their friendship instead will strengthen the bond of friendship between them.